Positive Self-Talk Scenarios

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Purpose: To recognize that we all participate in self-talk and should work on having a positive inner voice instead of a negative one.

Materials needed:

  • Self-talk scenario cards (These can be put on index cards or printed out.)
    • You have spilled your drink on the carpet
    • For the third time your friend has failed to drive you to the grocery store without notice
    • Your sister forgot about your birthday
    • You notice your pants seem to be getting a little tighter
    • It’s time to pay your bills and money is tight this month
    • You accidentally backed up too far and put a dent in the fender of your car
    • You want to ask someone out for a date, but you aren’t sure what they will say
    • Your bus is late and you have an appointment to get to
    • You are excited to go for a walk to get exercise and find that it has started to rain
    • You got a new sweater for your birthday and a friend says it looks silly
    • You are walking to the store and accidentally trip on the curb in front of a few people

Note: You can create your own scenarios relevant to your group.

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  1. Discuss self-talk and positive thinking with your group. Explain that we all have a “coach” inside our heads. Our “good coach” is in charge when we have positive self-talk, and our “bad coach” chimes in when we start thinking negative thoughts or get down on ourselves.
  2. Participants partner up and are given a self-talk scenario card
  3. Together with their partner, participants work through their scenario to determine what their “bad coach” (negative self-talk) might initially say in a situation. They then determine what their “good coach” (positive self-talk) would say instead.
  4. If time allows, come together and share with the group.
  5. Encourage the group to stop the negative self-talk and train themselves to be good coaches.