Bullying: Bruised and Beautiful Apples

Purpose: To demonstrate that the things we do and say matter to others, and when we are mean to others it has an effect on them even if we can’t see it on the outside.

Materials needed:

  • Two apples
  • Knife
  • Cutting board


  1. Begin by having the group describe similarities and differences between two apples.
  2. Choose one apple to insult and drop it on the table. For example, “this apple is ugly,” or “this apple’s skin is too shiny”.
  3. Have participants say mean things to apple and drop it on the table. Pass this apple around until everyone has had a chance to insult it and drop it.
  4. Take the other apple and say nice, encouraging things about it, and pass it around without dropping it. “You are a beautiful apple,” or “You are a really pretty color.”
  5. Compare the two apples again. They will still look similar on the outside.
  6. Then cut both apples open and view the differences on the inside. The apple that was insulted and dropped will be bruised, mushy, and have brown spots on the inside, and the other apple will not. (Participants can eat slices of the beautiful apple.)
  7. Talk with the group about treating others how they would like to be treated. Note that every time we say or do something mean to someone, we contribute to their “bruises” on inside. Encourage the group to stop “dropping” others and be kind instead.

Adaptations: Assign a group member to intervene when the group is saying mean things to the apple. Role play how to stand up for a friend. DSC02692